Dead Silence

I long to have the kind of conversation that flows from one subject to the next. Conversation that's effortless. I hate carrying the burden of trying to keep a conversation going. We all hate dead silence which could mean we have nothing left to talk about. And though no conversation can be described as the 'never ending story' we should all like to have meaningful dialogue. For me, conversation at some point or another has to stimulate every part of me. For I am - a spiritual, emotional and intellectual being. 

I want to talk about the things that are passionate to both of us. I want to talk about current events. I want to talk about our faith. I want to talk about a song I heard or a movie I watched. I want to share his excitement. I want to share my pain. I want him to share his insecurities and his victories. I want to share my secrets. But... we all reserve most of those things for that special someone. Someone we can trust not to walk away when we reveal those secrets. Someone who will love us all the more because of them not despite of them. I want to talk about how we feel. Though it's typical for men not to want to talk about how they feel, somethings need to be verbally communicated. If you don't tell me I won't know. I'm not a mind reader and I try to never assume. 


The more we have in common the more we have to talk about. An inquisitive person makes a good conversationalist because they ask lots of questions. And any time you're trying to get to know someone you should be asking questions. And if the listener doesn't have anything to hide they should be willing to answer some questions. Though you do want to build some history and establish a rapport with someone before you go bombarding them with all sorts of questions.

I tend to ask myself what purpose does this person play in my life or what purpose do I want them to play and that will determine the kind of dialogue I chose to have with them. If it's a professional relationship I'll keep it professional. Doesn't mean I won't share some details about myself and doesn't mean I won't ask certain questions to get to know their integrity. 

I want to talk to the guy who makes me feel sexy and smart. I want to talk to the guy whose personality draws the best out of me. I want to talk to the guy who makes my heart skip a beat. I want to talk to the guy who provokes me to see the little boy in him.